![]() Mainly focused on control, conditional love ultimately results in a power play for every person involved. If these people act contrary to your desires and wishes, expression and acceptance of them are being withheld, usually in the form of anger. Loving someone conditionally also requires holding others accountable for our expectations and if the person you love conditionally act in the manner at which you want them to act, an expression of approval is being granted. When you love a person with the condition, you will want them to look, think and act in a way that would fit your own expectations and paradigms. Conditional love comes from ego and specifically focuses on someone like a spouse, child, friend and parents to something like a job, a car and a house. Conditional love is a diverged emotion, implying that it has an opposite emotion which is known as hatred. This article first appeared on, and is reposted with permission from the author.There is a significant difference between conditional love and unconditional love. “All the world loves a lover” has never been truer than in the case of one who loves without demanding some favor in return. So, Happy Valentines Day! Use this special time to start delving into the benefits of unconditional love. And any relationship is an ideal place to start in assessing the power such love without conditions can truly have. Such unconditional love has infinite power to heal, whether the individual, or the whole world. Then allow that unconditional love to spread, to include truly loving all souls. ![]() Let that broader unconditional love first and foremost include yourself, because so many of the world’s problems result from the fact that we don’t even love ourselves enough-not in a selfish, childish fashion, but in a sense that acknowledges the divinely sourced beings we all are not dependent upon the approval or affection of others, but centered in the unique value of your soul and its connections. Ideally, that bigger view includes no “conditions,” and thus also broadens the relationships that contribute to our learning and growth. This Valentine’s Day, I suggest taking a bigger view of how our relationships in life help to serve a rich purpose in our soul growth, in getting right at the heart of why we even exist. In addition, we come to see that no soul is an island-we grow tremendously and more fully satisfy our purpose as humans when we develop a loving relationship with another person that demands no conditions at all. We cultivate far richer relationships as we become less egocentric and take a bigger view of who we are and why we are here. I submit that the rarer, more extraordinary examples of mutually beneficial unconditional love are far more satisfying and fulfilling than the conditional love so often found in relationships. Ideally, parents love their children “no matter what,” and offer compassion, kindness, and all manner of support even in the face of lesser human failings. It’s easy to love newborn babies in all their fresh innocence, but babies grow up into teenagers, and so on. Such relationships fail to offer the reward of significant mutual benefit.Ī “purer” form of love, less involved with conditions and such apparent barter, might be seen between parents and children. In fact, the real world of couples’ relationships all too often involves adapting self-serving conditions between the two. And yet even such admirable cases of mutual love are not always as pure as they might be-they involve “conditions.” Examples include cases of jealousy, or a possessive “love” that more resembles a form of barter, in which one chooses to love only if certain conditions are met. Love is truly that which “makes the world go round.” The world would be a pretty miserable place without it. To be complete, such love is always reciprocal, and mutually beneficial. The most fortunate have actually found a partner who supports them throughout their life in the earthly realm. Most of us have experienced this kind of love at least once in our lives, and hopefully much more than that. ![]() Valentine’s Day is the one holiday that is devoted to love, plain and simple-to Cupid, and to romantic love expressed between human beings. ![]()
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